Articles
What Am I Owed?
Entitlement doesn’t always look like selfishness. Sometimes it sounds like a quiet voice saying, “After all I’ve done, I deserve this.” But when our desires become demands, the people we love often pay the price. Discover how entitlement takes root in our hearts and how the grace of Jesus frees us to trade resentment for gratitude and demands for love.
Struggling with Overthinking?
Why the spiral of anxious thoughts isn't too much thinking, and how God leads us out of it It's 1:47 in the morning. The house is quiet, except for your husband's CPAP, and your mind is running a full-scale production of a conversation that hasn't happened yet. You've...
When Grief Comes Home
How to Walk With a Spouse Who Is Grieving There is a particular kind of helplessness that settles over a marriage when one spouse is grieving. You watch the person you love most carry a weight you cannot lift. You want to fix it. You want to say the right thing. You...
Can You Forgive Someone and Still Not Want a Relationship With Them?
I get asked this question more often than you might think. Someone has been deeply hurt. They have worked hard in their heart to forgive, they have surrendered the debt, and they genuinely believe they have released it to God. But they have also decided not to pursue...
Hope for a Parent that has Lost a Child
Recently, a friend asked me how I would respond to the following situation from a biblical counseling perspective. A mother in their grief group lost her adult son to suicide. She was experiencing deep grief compounded by anger at God. She believes that Exodus 20:12...
That Bad Boss Has an Expiration Date
I've sat across from a lot of people in my years of ministry and counseling. And one of the most common sources of stress, anxiety, and sleepless nights? A terrible boss. You know the type. The micromanager who doesn't trust you to do anything. The one who takes...
Can Anything Good Come from There?
If you were writing the story of the Messiah, where would you have him grow up? Jerusalem seems like the obvious choice. The holy city. The place where the temple stood. The center of Israel's religious life. Or maybe Bethlehem, the city of David, where the prophecies...
Educated Beyond Our Obedience
One of the saddest responses to Jesus in all of Scripture is found in Matthew 2:4-6. When Herod asked the chief priests and scribes where the Christ was to be born, they nailed it. Without hesitation, they answered, "In Bethlehem of Judea. For so it is written through...
When the High Priest Dies, Everything Changes
The most mysterious and powerful part of Joshua 20 comes in verse 6. The person who accidentally killed someone has made it to the city of refuge. The elders have heard his case and let him in. He's stood trial and been declared innocent of murderous intent. And...